One week into the new school year and it’s already started. Three thoughts about this issue.
The “Dear Mom and Dad” line could be eliminated and nothing about this project would change.
If the kids can fill out the question boxes on the worksheet then surely the kids could write in the correct words for their family. So, the line could simply be written, “Dear___________________”. This would allow kids being raised by two moms; two dads; by just a dad; by just a mom; a foster parent; grandma; auntie; or Nana, the nurse dog from Peter Pan to fill in the blank with the appropriate words.
If you think the countless number of non Mom and Dad families should just overlook this stuff, imagine if every year your child repeatedly brought home assignments addressed to, “Daddy and Papa”. First, some people would wonder if there was an underlying agenda advocating for a certain type of family formation (not to mention a certain subset of these people would sh*t their pants over such a greeting). Second, you might not care the first few times but after awhile you’d begin to wonder why there couldn’t be some thought put into making school materials applicable to all families.
I drive a mini-van and I love it. There’s a version of me in an alternate universe who never met a sailor from the Midwest. She can’t pick out Indiana on a map, let alone imagine living there as a suburban housewife who loves cloth diapers and breastfeeding. She’s scoffing at my van. She works in NYC, has money, is single, and she is scoffing at me. She’s a snob. I love my van. We become who we are meant to be. My soul is satisfied, my arms are full, my heart is happy.
If someone were to die at the age of 63 after a lifelong battle with MS or Sickle Cell, we’d all say they were a “fighter” or an “inspiration.” But when someone dies after a lifelong battle with severe mental illness and drug addiction, we say it was a tragedy and tell everyone “don’t be like him, please seek help.” That’s bullshit. Robin Williams sought help his entire life. He saw a psychiatrist. He quit drinking. He went to rehab. He did this for decades. That’s HOW he made it to 63. For some people, 63 is a fucking miracle. I know several people who didn’t make it past 23 and I’d do anything to have 40 more years with them.
I think we say things like “get help!” because we feel like we can help in a way we feel hopeless to with physical health issues. There’s no doubt in my mind that anyone dealing with mental health problems and addiction are fighters.
In a way, maybe we feel like losing these battles is more preventable and we want to do what we can to prevent it from happening. You don’t feel guilty for not being able to heal your loved ones physically, but it’s much harder to let go of your guilt and self-blame when they suffer from addiction and depression.
Hopefully the more we talk about these often taboo subjects the more we can learn about saying the right things and how to feel about losing the people we love this way.
GoFundMe is allowing a campaign for people to donate money to Darren Wilson, the cop who killed Michael Brown in Ferguson, MO.
When called on this, and how it violates their ToS, GoFundMe’s response was to delete the hateful, disgusting, racist comments from the donations. They refused to end the campaign. Apparently it is only “promoting hate, violence, racial intolerance, or the financial exploitation of a crime” if people can see the deplorable sentiments behind the donations. Somehow deleting the evidence of those sentiments magically changes what those donations are for: rewarding a police officer for killing Michael Brown.
This is absolutely a direct violation of GoFundMe’s ToS, yet GoFundMe is refusing to act. These are people giving money to an individual that gunned down an unarmed black teen. He is profiting from this killing, and it directly promotes racial intolerance and violence. There is no reason why GoFundMe should allow this campaign to continue…
… Except that GoFundMe gets 5% of the cut. In this case, 5% of 235k is $12,500. GoFundMe and Darren Wilson both are profiting off the killing of Michael Brown, and GoFundMe has decided they’d rather take their cut of the money than follow their own ToS. $12,500 is apparently what it takes to abandon justice.
Please, join in the boycott of GoFundMe, and consider signal boosting this.
Go fund me has done other shitty things as well.
The original fund has closed — but keep reading because the story gets better! Gofundme has allowed them to set up a second campaign. Don’t worry, racists, the $250K from the first fund is still going to Mike Brown’s killer, as is the money from the new campaign! And guess what, now you can reward a cop for violently executing an unarmed, innocent teenager and do it TAX-FREE! The proudly racist scum running this fuckery have aligned with the Missouri Police Union’s 501(c)(3) non-profit charity as an intermediary for Darren Wilson so that people can donate tax-free (almost a thousand people have donated to it today, in case you were hoping this would die off). The Ferguson Police Department is directing people to send donations to it.
You know what? I really hate when I go to fact-check a tumblr reblog and it’s EVEN FUCKING WORSE THAN IT ALREADY WAS.
Several months ago, WePay, the makers do the software on which gofundme runs (along with several other crowdfunding sites)
. There is no altruism in online “charity” crowdfunding sites. They’re in it for the money, period. It’s why they monitor social media (they say that the bank they use requires it, but cannot actually prove that) but not their own comments, it’s why they’ll permit hate sites to send people to donate money to Darren Wilson as a “bounty” on Mike Brown but won’t permit a cam girl to send people to donate for a naughty photo — the latter hurts their “reputation” while the former is just people’s “legally protected opinions.” Either way, they make their thousands and thousands and laugh all the way to the banks. There isn’t enough money on earth to justify how these bottom feeders operate or using their sites and giving them more money. If you’re running a fundraiser or considering one, you may end up better off doing it the old fashioned way with a post office box at the USPS. There’s more physical work involved but at least you aren’t enriching ethically bankrupt jackasses, and you don’t have to pay more for the PO box the more money you raise.
I guess I should trust my cooking instincts more. Just made meat sauce (like red spaghetti sauce with ground beef) on a whim with no recipe and after I tried it (licking my spoon clean three times) to make sure it was seasoned well before reducing I realized I probably wouldn’t have kept tasting it if it wasn’t delicious! It’s just hard growing up with amazing Italian cooks in your family because it’s never gonna taste as good to me as it does when my grandmother cooks it.